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We Are Responsible To Say NO!
A friend of mine had a dilemma today that reminded me to be more diligent in my fight to claim control over my home and family. Especially over my time and my spirit.
An out of state relative of hers left a message on her machine saying his family were coming to town this week and planned to stay with her.
She had a full week of plans to clean and get ready for her parents to come visit from out of state, and was on a very tight budget this week. No money to buy extra food or entertain guests.
Not only that, but these people have a history of using my friend, stealing from her, and are heavy partiers. She is a new Christian, new wife, and they have just moved into a new town themselves, struggling to survive.
She feels awful to say no to relatives, but extremely angry to be put upon this way. We talked for a while and she seemed to get the courage to tell them no. I advised her to call them before they get to her door, and tell them she had other plans and could not host their visit. Don't give lots of reasons, don't apologize, don't back down.
I also told her if they or any other people come into her home bringing their own "spirits" that don't mesh with hers and the Holy Spirit's, that she needs to make them leave. It may only take playing Godly music 24 hours a day, and not the modern rock kind that people enjoy listening to anyway. Make it the unmistakable praise and worship hymns of the past. The only people who will stay during that are people who are willing to host the Holy Spirit in their own hearts!
Anyway, it reminded me of a neighbor I once had who was a farmer's wife. She had worked while her husband was in the war, and earned the money to build their house. She designed it, hired the architect and builders and had it ready for him when he returned.
She was very focused and structured about everything in her life. If you called her at a time when she was busy doing her housework or preparing her husband's meals, she would politely but firmly end the conversation. She knew what she wanted and what she didn't want, and although it may have come off a bit brusque you just had to admire someone who wasn't going to let the winds of whim and any passing person's thoughts or plans take precedence over her family's well being.
She was a great role model for me, and today reminded me that God does NOT expect us to cater to everyone's problems, random thoughts, loneliness or needs.
There is a time to do good works, but if you have ignored your first responsibility (that God DOES hold you accountable for), to serve everyone who comes along, you won't be getting your reward in Heaven. The reward I'm talking about is God saying to you, "Well done, thou good and faithful servant!"
I don't mean you should not help when it's truly an emergency, or when there is no one else who could do the job quicker and better. (For instance, don't try to tow a vehicle if a tow truck or roadside service is available.) There are very FEW times when you are called to help that you are the right person for the job. Almost every time I'm called upon, the need and request is misplaced. Either time will fix the problem, or there are other family members in the same household who should be helping but aren't asked.
Every person's life has its inner circle, the randomness of passing thoughts, emotions, and desire to be happy. Many people try to get their happiness from going to everyone around them and asking for their time, money or favors.
There are some 6 billion people on earth, and each one of them has a new need or whim several times a day. How can you possibly succeed at YOUR life and fulfill YOUR destiny if you are catering to the whims of others?
You can't! So don't feel guilty. Be bold, be fair. Pull your own weight and if you network to build friends and get favors, make sure you are giving something of equal or greater value when you ask. If the people you ask say no, don't be angry, it's their right and responsibility to take care of their own needs, and their family's needs first!
Protect the anointing of God, through the Holy Spirit, by allowing the only "spirit" in your house to be God's Spirit! You need that anointing to get help and to live in the kingdom of God rather than the chaos and destruction of the world.
God bless you! I hope this helps.
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© Lisa Tyler 2010
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